What Happens When Girls Say "Yes" Part 2
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I told you that saying "Yes" would not be easy, right? Taking the high road never is. What if I said that you would not have any regrets by saying "Yes" to God? Regrets. Yeah, those. Regrets are those nagging thoughts that stay in your head and play over and over again. "If I had only done…" "If I had just said…" "If I had never went to…" If we could go back and change the choices we have made, many of us would. Especially when it comes to choices about boys. Boys make things complicated.

In my last article ("What Happens When Girls Say "Yes" Part 1), I was certainly not saying to "forget about boys." That would be impossible! I was once a teenager and boys tend to consume a lot of our thoughts. I am just trying to give you another perspective on the whole dating thing and saying that there is another way.

When we date and/or have a boyfriend, we tend to forget about God. It's the guy who we think is meeting all of our needs that we are consumed with. And that feeling of having him meet our needs can be addictive. So much, that when we break up, we need to move on to another guy. Because being alone just isn't as fun anymore.

And when we date we can easily compromise in the area of our sexual purity. Most girls don't think about it, but it is a slippery slope. It begins gradually and slowly, and before you know it, you are in way over your head. It might not happen with the first guy you date, but it gets easier each time, and each time you go further and further down the slope. Every time you compromise in the area of sexual purity, you give a piece of yourself away. Just like Jenny. Piece by piece without her even understanding the impact it was having on her life.

God designs us to be "one" with only one. When you give yourself to another person, it is so powerful that you bond with that person. God intended that bond to take place with only one person, for a lifetime, in marriage.

But it doesn't just have to be compromising in the area of sexual purity. It also is giving away parts of yourself emotionally by sharing too much with someone you don't know well enough. If you go around "oneing" with more than one person, the results can be pretty devastating: broken heart, sexually transmitted disease, infertility, pregnancy, broken relationship with God, shame, guilt, broken trust with parents. The list goes on and on. Is all of that worth it? I don't think so. Do you?

Saying "Yes" to God is saying "Yes" to His plan. Saying "Yes" to His timing. He has a God-written love story that He wants to write. Trouble is, we tend to hold onto the pen. We tend to want to write it ourselves and manipulate the story to be just how we want it to be...with that perfect guy...

God can't give you a God-written love story if you hold onto the pen. You have to let go and give it to Him. He has been writing love stories since the beginning of time. He is the author of love. He is the author of romance. He is the author of marriage. I think He might just know a little more than you do in this department. Plus He knows your future. That, in and of itself, is worth it all.

Saying "Yes" to God is allowing Him to be in control of your emotions and your feelings and your relationships with boys. When you put God first, and pursue Him, He then has the opportunity to speak into your life and will take you on an amazing journey. A journey you will miss if you are tightly gripping the pen and trying to write the story yourself. You can't possibly write a better love story than the God of the universe.

Let me encourage you to evaluate where you are right now. Who has your heart? Who do you spend the majority of your time with? Who do you share your personal, intimate thoughts with? Is it God? If not, then who is it?

Say "Yes" to Him and begin the journey of discovering the heart of God. A heart that beats for you. A heart that showers you with grace and mercy. A heart that finds you beautiful just the way you are. I promise, you will have no regrets.

"For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? -Matthew 16:26

Katy Flood is an international speaker who is passionate about communicating God’s heart for sexual wholeness. She is a freelance writer and a consultant for Heartbeat International. More information on Katy and her speaking ministry can be found at www.katyflood.net.